Monthly buzz ... & food for thought

Shamaret meditation Mon 2nd March 2020

7 pm – 8.30pm
Summer Hill, Sydney
$15 per evening

Shamaret Meditation brings together awareness meditation and shamanic journeying. We commence with a grounding meditation followed by opening to our higher-consciousness through a shamanic journey.

We meditate on the first Monday of the month, from March to December 2020. You are very welcome to join me for one evening or to attend regularly. It’s suitable for both beginner and experienced mediators.

There is more information about Shamaret Meditation on my website: http://www.maretstaron.com/meditation

If you’d like to attend this coming Monday 2nd March, please email me (maret@maretstaron.com) or text me (0414 432 737) and I’ll send you more detailed information about location and timing.

Whose rules do you live by?

Many of us live by rules that others (or society) have set for us. We’re not even aware we are doing this. A few years ago when I felt very irritated, I discovered that it was because I was living by other people’s rules and not by ‘Maret rules’. It was only when I changed the rules that I lived by, that I moved past that particular episode of irritation.

Our higher self (or soul) is always calling us to become aware of the ‘rules’ that we live by and to discard them if they don’t work for us. Whose rules do you live by? For me, it was my mothers. For example, she regularly said to me: the only person I can trust is her; she knows me better than I know myself; she knows what is best for me; never answer back to anyone, especially her; I am too tall and big and must always hide my hands under the table; your sister is the only one who knows the right thing to do; be silent, don’t talk, etc. And I took it all on board. We always have a choice how we respond. With hindsight, I can see that I chose compliance instead of rebellion.

Not surprisingly, I grew up with a fear of authority and fear of upsetting anyone. And I hate to admit it, but that fear was so deep that when I unintentionally upset someone, I actually wished that I was dead. Pretty sad, hey. But what I had actually done, was squish my true self (or essence) out of shape so much, that it enabled me to live by the truths and rules of others. Sounds familiar?

Eventually, thank goodness, I learnt how to be honest with myself, find my own truth and find the joy, delight and fun in my life. There were many patterns I had to change and many new ways of being that I practised in order to find myself. I will admit it was quite a painful process. I can now say it was worth every tear, every bit of resistance that I had to overcome and every truth about myself that I had to face.

One of the many things that I did on this journey of my own healing, was to sit down and list all the rules that I lived by (eg. never upset anyone) – and then I did another list of the rules that I wanted to live by (eg always stay in my integrity). What’s important is to not throw out every rule – keep the ones that still work for you (if any), delete the ones that don’t, and write down new rules that are aligned to your true essence – and you’ll know what they are, as they will always bring authentic joy, love, truth, creativity, peace and fun into your life.

So when you are ready, list and review and re-write the rules that you live by. By rules, I mean the principles that you live your life by, the things that always bring you joy. And too many rules can make it hard to be flexible, adaptable and happy. Sometimes less is better. Remember, they are your unique principles, those that YOU want to live by.

May you always find the courage to let go the patterns and beliefs that cause you suffering, and the courage to develop new patterns and beliefs that fill your life with peace, joy, love, truth and inspiration.